I think I was an outlier when I was 14 and called to set up an appointment to discuss different birth control options. The girl who was giving the presentation was not much older than I was, and I was living on the street that point in my life. I knew that I wouldn't be living on the street forever, but I also didnt want the slightest chance of pregnancy to hold me back. After graduating college I felt like I could finally breathe and take a step back from survival mode. I was finally able to live like a person who doesn't need to worry about where their next meal was coming from. I was able to make real friends, grab drinks, have a safe place to rest. Even though I thought I was prepared for everything and anything I was obviously not.....It was when I was eating an avocado and sardines that I thought...this is so stereotypical of pregnant women appetites on tv....OH SHIT.
I didn't think twice about my decision, I had already done so much and I had so much more to do with my life. I informed my friend of my decision and he even offered to help. I made my appointment. Its hard to express my personality thru a snapshot of my life in sentence and rigid form. Basically I always see the light and the dark, Ive seen so much anger/horror/disgust that not much can phase me and I smile and crack jokes thru every situation, even the inappropriate ones. So I show up for my appointment with coffee and scone in hand (like I said I was finally doing ok in my life and I am going to treat myself with self care). Between being a smartass to the protesters and helping other girls into the shelter, I became an unofficial volunteer. Most people were shocked when I came to sit beside them in the waiting room and was prepared with book and headphones in hand when 5 minutes before I was helping them into the clinic. I knew all the protocols, I had even done a paper in college about different procedures for an abortion...the bottom line is its a woman's choice regardless. I again have that personality where I am ok laughing at myself. I was able to get other women in the room to focus on me and let them forget the ever pressing decision in front of them. I had just gotten word that my car had gotten a parking ticket in front of the clinic....if that is not a cherry on top of my pie i dont know what is...but it made people laugh and that made me smile.
I dont regret my decision for a moment, I do wonder from now and then how different my life might be. Im now married and work at a non-profit for women in domestic abuse or sexual assault situations. I do plan to have a kid with my husband in the future, but the fact that I can plan for the future is due solely to Plan Parenthood and volunteers and the clinic.